How many choices women have?

Entering Puberty is a difficult phase of anybody's life,especially a girl's life. It is painful physically, outrageous emotionally and exhausting mentally but what adds icing to the cake is the reaction of society toward a girl's changing body. It is definitely not easy when the entire family or the society expects a 11 or 12 year old girl to suddenly grow up and learn to live in her maryadaas (limits) as soon as possible.

So difficult for a girl to handle such horrible reactions when she is trying to figure out herself and it is not the problem that is faced by the small town or village girls but many girls in my country face such problems in a way or another. 

Choices are not meant for us, what is meant for us are the decisions taken by our society, our relatives, our family, our parents and they are too good at disguising them as choices. What is even more interesting is that, nowadays the Advertising sector is also very keen on celebrating the modern Indian women( remember vogue empowerment video featuring deepika padukone), although these choices are basically their disguised opinions manipulating young girls in certain way to be more free, independent and rebellious, which to an extend is good but for what? may be to join their advertising agencies and taking a pride in showing off their vital assets which are then compared to their prestigious products, be it  a motorcycle or a car or a engine, the Advertising agencies have redefines the value of women's body parts.

Sometimes I feel that a women's breast, her thighs, her belly and her ass is given so much of attention that people fail to recognize her spirit. Parents are so busy preaching her to be shy, submissive, simple and scarifying that they forget to teach her to be courageous and confident.

Very often I think that why do young girls grow up listening to the story of Cinderella and snow white but not the stories of Rani laxmi bai and joan of ark. A mother always keeps a eye on her grown up girl regarding what she wears, how she speaks to her elders, what she wears then why not the same mother consider it her responsibility to talk to her regarding sex and periods.

So busy is the Modern Indian women to become the perfect example of what the society idolizes that somewhere she loses herself, after a certain point of time she really forget who she is and who would put so much of time to find oneself back which may not fit what the society expects her to be.

As a girl I was often criticized for being rebellious, for wearing short clothes,especially by my relatives, eventually they were successful putting me into Indian wears, I still feel awkward and shy wearing short clothes( guess, they were successful in giving me a wound). I was also criticized for being outspoken and many more thing. To your surprise I was also criticized by my fellow classmates for discussing periods (Menstrual cycle). I was criticized for making a choice of being a writer and I am still often criticized because I choose to make choices not sacrifices.

Women like kalpana chawla, kiran Bedi, Indra Nooyi also made some choices, some really tough choices and who better can fit the example of Modern Indian women than them.